Managing Conflict

While all couples need autonomy and closeness, many partners struggle with the pursuer-distancer dance and feel chronically dissatisfied with their degree of intimacy. When the pattern of pursuing and distancing becomes ingrained, the behavior of one partner provokes and maintains the behavior of the other. The post The Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic appeared first on The Gottman […]

The last, but certainly not least, of the Four Horsemen is stonewalling. The post The Four Horsemen: Stonewalling appeared first on The Gottman Institute.

Contempt is the worst of the four horsemen. It is the number one predictor of divorce, but it can be defeated. The post The Four Horsemen: Contempt appeared first on The Gottman Institute.

Defensiveness is really a way of blaming your partner. The post The Four Horsemen: Defensiveness appeared first on The Gottman Institute.