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We may never know how many men or women “cheat” on their spouses, largely because on questionnaires people do not always tell the truth about such matters. Cheating was defined by McAllister and colleagues as “a general term for extradyadic romantic or sexual behavior that violates expectations in a committed romantic relationship.” The key word […]
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You may not even be aware of how you are acting or speaking out of contempt—often it can feel like you are being genuine. Dr. John Gottman realized there needs to be a path that leads to a culture of appreciation, and that is by expressing your feelings and longings.
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What is Defensiveness? The third horsemen in the Four Horsemen is a common one: defensiveness, which is defined as self-protection in the form of righteous indignation or innocent victimhood in an attempt to ward off a perceived attack. It is an unconscious and automatic response to perceived danger, whether or not it makes sense to
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Love – what we can learn from science and math Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. Corinthians 9:6-8 But
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Emotions rest inside of us. In fact, because that is such an innate understanding in all of us, you may be wondering why I offer it. What benefit will those words give to your everyday, to your relationships? At times, I joke with the couple that I work with that if they could help me
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Repair happens when we build bridges of validation that connect us, deepening our sense of belonging and security. The post What to Do When You Disagree appeared first on The Gottman Institute.
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